I will appreciate and be thankful for…

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My sweet Madison who is in love with dress up. And laughter. And mischief.

I have been reminded that her mischief is part of her tenacity and spirit and it will serve her well in life to reach her goals. I will try to nurture that and channel it, rather than wish it away because I am so overwhelmed with the many things we have going on in our lives.

I am thankful for my child.

jordan-spring-collage-2013-wmI will appreciate and be thankful for my first born. My lovely, remarkable, strong girl. She is growing up before my eyes and I let too many mornings rush by without enough hugs and looking into her eyes to remind her she is loved, wanted, and missed while she is away each day at school. I let my patience escape me too often, and I forget to remind her how fantastic I think she is… each. and. every. day. I forget to tell her that she makes the world a better place just by being her. She is intuitive and compassionate. Her witty ways, silly nature and love for family makes me want to be a better person. She makes me better by simply being in my life.

To think she could walk out our door and never return… as the children in Oklahoma did today…is simply unfathomable.

I am honored and thankful for the life I am spending with my oldest daughter, Jordan.

charlotte-mommy-spring-2013-collage-wmI will appreciate and be thankful for the silly, ridiculous and laughter-filled moments that have forever captured the love I share with Charlotte. Even if I do look like a big dork (and will seriously question why I chose to publish this series of photos on my blog…ahem).

She is funny, intelligent and full of life. Her spirit is light and insightful. Her love for me and her  family radiates and I do not appreciate each and every moment as I should. I will stop scoffing at having to carry her up two flights of stairs simply because she wants to be cuddled while being taken to bed, and instead, enjoy her embrace.

I am so blessed to have this child in my life.

My three daughters fill my life with love, light and laughter. The give me more than I could have imagined and like many moms, I become overwhelmed, often consumed by the tasks of the day. Laundry to do, dishes to put away and work to get done. I forget to pause and just be present.

I was reminded of the importance of this today.

Finally…the husband. He doesn’t like to be on the blog – too bad.

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We’ve been at this nearly 11 years and I do not appreciate my time with him as I should and it shouldn’t take something like this to remind me of that, but it did…and sadly often does because man…we have a ton going on these days. All those kids and stuff.

{ahem}

I will work harder to be present for him – to show him love, attention and friendship – even if I am mad that he left his socks on the floor for the 5,434,214 time or I’m exhausted from yet another day of toddler antics – because I am thankful for him, and he should know that.

My heart is breaking for the families of Oklahoma, especially those who lost their children in Moore,  because they had hardly begun living. The best we can all do, outside of the obvious donation efforts, is to honor them all by loving our own children and family members that much more and better than we have… making sure that no matter what happens when they leave our presence, we all have that….

because nothing is guaranteed.

**If you’re interested in helping the families of Moore, Oklahoma, I encourage you to donate and offer support to the American Red Cross – more information here - they have already begun executing plans to help, but they will need more.**

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I’ve never blasted a brand publicly before. I’ve never taken such issue with something so strongly but I feel it’s necessary to put this brand in the hot seat for it’s horrible brand ideals.

Abercrombie & Fitch

It recently came to my attention that the CEO of Abercrombie & Fitch, Mike Jeffries was quoted saying the following about his brand in 2006:

“That’s why we hire good-looking people in our stores,” Jeffries said. “Because good-looking people attract other good-looking people, and we want to market to cool, good-looking people. We don’t market to anyone other than that.” He went on: “In every school there are the cool and popular kids, and then there are the not-so-cool kids. Candidly, we go after the cool kids. We go after the attractive all-American kid with a great attitude and a lot of friends. A lot of people don’t belong [in our clothes], and they can’t belong. Are we exclusionary? Absolutely.”

Really?

This is one of the most popular brands among tweens and teens and this is your ultimate goal?  I even see some of my adult friends sporting their favorite tees and this is what the brand represents – not impressed. Quite frankly it angers me.

I take serious issue with this marketing approach and the implications it has on our children – both boys and girls. What messages are we sending them? That you can only be worthy of being ‘cool’ if you look the part? There is no merit to personality, educational or personal accomplishments nor how you are as a friend and human being?

What is wrong with this picture people?

I guess I should have figured this was their message when all of their life-sized posters depicted such images – shame on me for sticking my head in the sand and giving them the benefit of the doubt. I never in my life thought that their CEO actually looked to exclude a specific set of kids. And then to actually state that out loud?

Despicable.

It’s hard enough to be a teen these days, let alone to feel excluded because you can’t afford, fit or otherwise be able to shop in a specific store because you don’t fit into a certain mold. Abercrombie & Fitch is part of the ever expanding self-image issues that teens have these days. They are far worse than they were when I was growing up (pre-internet, dating myself here), and believe me, there were plenty then.  We have teens exploiting themselves online begging for people to tell them they are pretty through Instagram photo contests and Youtube videos – it’s a disheartening trend of insecurity and I am fearful for the future of our youth’s feelings of self-worth.

We should not be supporting a brand that perpetuates their issues even more.

It’s no secret I grew up of very meager means. I was the thrift store kid – Abercrombie and Fitch was not on my radar, nor within our budget. But, I actually take pride in the fact that if my girls want a specific brand, we could manage to get it for them, within reason. But, I tell you what, we’ll be steering clear of brands that promote “thin, cool and exclusivity” as their mantra.

They’ll look fantastic without that A&F logo on their hoodie. Thankyouverymuch.

 

 

Image via Flickr/lifeSkies

 

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