Being a mother is kind of a big deal. Who knew?!
For this week’s Listable Life, I’ve chosen to share what things I didn’t expect about motherhood…
So here goes…
1. Pregnancy Dramatics. I didn’t expect to have such dramatic pregnancies and deliveries – I think many of us start out thinking it’s all going to go seamlessly if we have nothing offering us any reason to think otherwise, which was the case for me. My first daughter was an easy pregnancy that came with 31 looooong hours of labor…and I thought that was bad.
But then I had a miscarriage after Jordan, which came as a surprise because her pregnancy, outside of that ridiculous labor was uneventful. Not one iota of drama. You can imagine that time was pretty difficult because we told so many people early on, including Jordan – again, taking things for granted – and then had to go back and share that we had lost the baby with everyone. Explaining that to our daughter was tough, she was pretty young, so we put it in terms that she could understand but man…that was hard.
This was also a hard lesson in social media announcements, because for months afterwards I was still finding myself saying – “Oh…actually we lost the baby.”
Then the twins came and rocked our entire universe with their little mono-mono-less-than-1%-of-twins-situation resulting in 4 straight months living in the hospital, 5 weeks of which I had to stay in a hospital bed hooked up to all kinds of machines and the remaning 11 weeks with the girls in the NICU. Good times indeed.
Thankfully…we’re on the other side of all that now…
2. Immense LOVE. I never imagined how immensely connected I would feel to my daughters or what the love between us would feel like. I suppose I couldn’t imagine what the bond would be like because my mother left my life at such a young age so I didn’t understand the true bonds and the enormous amount of love that can be shared between a mother and her children but I am so thankful for the love we share. There is nothing in the world like it.
3. Loss of Empathy for My Parents. Since becoming a parent myself, I have become less empathetic of my mom and dad and their plight in life. While I understand their internal struggles are very real – I have a hard time reconciling that with leaving my brother and I emotionally and physically without either of them more often than not as we grew up. I cannot fathom being without my girls or not taking part in their upbringing… the thought of it makes my heart ache and threatens to destroy my every being – so the fact that they could walk away is so unbelievably heartbreaking.
4. The Ability to Function with Little or No Sleep. Gone are the days of sleeping in and it’s amazing how well I can function with very little sleep. Pure talent.
And lots of coffee.
5. How Going from 1 to 3 Raises the Level of Chaos from 0 to 100. Good grief the twins have changed our level of noise, mess and the laundry. Whoa nelly. Our parental work load has risen exponentially. I’m not sure if this happens when you go from one to two, but 1 to 3….sheesh…that has been quite an adjustment. I can manage a classroom of 30+ 5th Graders, but give me two toddlers and you may find me rocking in the corner with only a sliver of my sanity in tact. Just sayin’.
Ok that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but they’re kind of a big job. It’s a good thing they’re so darn cute.
What are some things you didn’t expect about motherhood?
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