When you imagine marriage as a little girl, you think of the fairy tale…the magic.
You don’t see to the future of ups, down, hills and valleys that life tosses your way. Because, if it were just the two of you all the time, it would be that magic. You don’t see struggle or challenging days in a hospital with your kids or deployments that arrive, but then are delayed and then arrive again.
You only feel the magic within those early days in love and it becomes impossible that those feelings could ever dissipate or be affected by life. But, then life happens and you realize it’s not so simple and marriage takes work and a commitment to going back to those magical days in the midst of your most challenging times.
So, sometimes, you just need time away, time to regroup, re-set and re-focus.
The husband and I did just that this weekend.
We had a nice dinner…
Sat at a bar and chatted over a cold beer without the worry of getting home by a certain time to our littles because they were in really good hands….the hands of their grandparents who happened to be visiting from out of state.
We slept in and lingered over our morning coffee and indulged in a breakfast that little hands would never allow us to enjoy under normal circumstances.
We were in town to see a friend retire, so there was an official purpose to be away from our children and good reason to see the husband in uniform…
I still remember over ten years ago when he showed up to meet me in Savannah, rose in hand, full dress uniform. It’s as romantic as it sounds folks… and he still ruffles my feathers when he dresses in uniform.
Sometimes, a little time away is needed to regroup, refocus and remember why you love each other.
It wasn’t a perfectly serene time. We even had a disagreement while we were there….but, that’s the nature of life when you have so many different things going on….including a deployment looming and the pressure of making each and every moment count because you only have a precious few left before that dreaded separation starts. So, I choose to look back and reflect on these moments above. These quiet moments together that were just us. Moments that are so few and far between these days and that will be even fewer in the not so distant future due to our military service commitments.
Thanks Grandma and Gramps. We needed this time away.
Do you make it a point to get a night away from the kids? How do you make time to focus on your relationship – even if you can’t make a night or weekend of it?