I walked into the kitchen one morning, after just having been sleeping, my hair was pulled back, my eyes were still tired and I had just spent several minutes inspecting my dark circles and bags being frustrated that I have those already at 33, when my husband remarked, “You are SO beautiful.”
“Ugh but I have bags under my eyes and I can’t seem to get rid of these dark circles even though I’m getting more sleep.”
“Well,” he says, a little defeat in his voice, yet I could tell he was trying to remain upbeat in an effort to help me focus on good things, “and you’re still so stunningly beautiful even with those things….I’m a lucky man!”
God love him.
You see, I spend most of my days living simply. No fuss, no muss. Some days are stretchy-hair band kind of days and others are glasses kind of days.
I do try to dress nicely, throw on a bright scarf and some lip-gloss, but it has gotten to the point that I keep it pretty casual because I work from home and yoga pants while sitting at my computer is so much more comfortable then getting all dressed up.
But, then I Instagram photos of myself like this, because it’s really the only way I get into photos with my kids…
and while I zero in, first on my adorable, dimpled little sweetheart…it is immediately followed by a sad sigh over those bags under my eyes, dark circles (which were there before Instagram saved the day with a filter) and essentially I ruin this lovely moment with my child.
Take this picture….
I took it several times to make sure the dark circles were less visible (in my opinion) and the whispy hair was tamed…ultimately taking away from the goal of the photo – to capture my new favorite scarf which always brightens up my day and tweeting out a little ditty to share with friends.
Why am I so focused on my flaws?
Why must we women do this to ourselves?
It’s a shame because I know better. I know that I have always wanted to age gracefully. I know that those lines on my face mean I’ve lived and those circles and bags come from waking with those babies sleeping upstairs and eventually, I’ll get more sleep.
I also know that occasionally, I clean up nice too.
It’s a shame that we moms focus so much on our flaws. I know you’ve done it too.
I saw this little image the other day that said, “Behind every GREAT kid is a mother who’s pretty sure she’s screwing it up”
So, I shared it on a Facebook page I manage (only a few short days ago) and to date, it has 33,381 shares – we only have 33,820 likes on the page, so that gives you an idea just how much that statement resonated with moms everywhere.
It was funny, we all feel this way, but the truth is, sometimes we’re SO focused on our flaws, we forget to see how much we’re doing right and we’re so focused on the bags under our eyes or the big creases in our foreheads that we forget we’re still beautiful, and that we do, in fact, get better with age.
Who wants to go back to some of our fashions of years past? Or the hair?
So, I’m trying to work a little harder to embrace my age, and until I can manage more sleep – find a quality under eye concealer.
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