The husband and I will celebrate 13 years of wedded *cough* bliss this fall.
We married in our twenties, so young, so in love.
The picture on the left sits atop our mantle to this day.
Here’s us now, a few crows feet showing, but still in love, even after the inevitable ebbs and flows that marriage brings.
But, here’s the thing, this fella and I can get into a fight like nobody’s business. We are both spitfires, bull-headed, whatever you want to call a personality that doesn’t want to be wrong.
Recently, however, my husband has figured out how to diffuse arguments in mere seconds.
13 years. That’s how long it took him to figure out this little nugget of wisdom.
Let me set a scene for you.
One of the twins was throwing a fit over a toy, the hubby and I disagreed with how the situation was managed, so after the kids went off to school we started arguing about it. We were going back and forth for a bit and in the midst of that, he said, “I really don’t need to be fighting with you about this.” and I’m like, “Yeah, but blah-bippity-blah admit that I’m right here!” And, he’s like…
wait for it…..
My husband in his best monotone voice:
You’re pretty, I’m ugly
You’re brilliant, I’m stupid
I’m wrong, You’re right
And, of course, by the third statement, I’m laughing and can no longer argue with him because of the ridiculousness of that whole statement.
Voila! Argument over.
Although, admittedly once, we had a serious argument happening and while I was laughing at this little statement he likes to throw in to diffuse tension, I also was like, “No, really, we’re not done yet.”
I can be a tough one sometimes.
That must be where our girls get it.
Does your spouse have a secret weapon to diffuse your arguments? Do you? Because apparently, I need one.