Last week, I was feeling a bit defeated. I wrote about one of my daughters, Maddie. She and her twin Charlotte were born under unique circumstances. Due to those circumstances, we are dealing with developmental delays and they seem to be lingering for a long time. I talked about how I felt like an utter failure some days and how tough it is to see my child struggle. And truth be told, in recent months, there have been more days where my glass is half-empty than I’d like to admit.
Then I get something like this….
Notice how I’m holding hands with my oldest girl?
Sure, one hand only has four fingers, but it’s a pretty good depiction of me don’t you think?
My oldest daughter came home with this last week, when I was having one of those, “I suck” kind of weeks… and sure, she didn’t follow instructions and underline her nouns…
But, this simple worksheet says SO much. And it will continue to carry me when I have those days where I feel like I am getting it all wrong. It will lift me up when I feel like I have not done enough to foster the development of my children because it has given me a more complete perspective. My children know they are loved. They know they are wanted. They know that I would do anything for them. And, while we’re still struggling with delays, they aren’t permanent – and that’s something to be thankful for.
My oldest doesn’t know this yet, but she has saved me more than once through her unwavering love and affection. She is wise beyond her years and through her light, selflessness and love – she has saved me.
So, maybe I’m not failing after all.
How do you remind yourself that you are doing well as a parent? How do you keep it all in perspective?