My husband has a mistress. And, lately, she’s been a bit more intrusive than normal and I’m not a fan.
But, then I remember, that we’ve been pretty fortunate. No boots on the ground in a war zone (yet) like so many of our good friends. We’ve endured separation, but it’s been in safe zones. My husband has been here for the births of all of our children and we have truly been blessed, all things considered.
Right now, as I type this, he is by my side, and I am so grateful.
But it’s tough to go it alone when those deployments come and he’s called to duty away from us, even with counting all of those blessings above. It’s tough having our lives revolve around what the military says we have to do and where we have to be even after doing this for over 10 years. (side note: typing that makes me feel old). We do miss out on things and we do find ourselves making last minute life changes because they decide they need us somewhere else more than the place we were initially supposed to go. It’s gotten even tougher explaining these things as our children get older. How do you tell your child that her father chose to be away from her? As proud as I am of him, patriotism is a tough concept for a young kid to understand.
So, as you celebrate the Fourth of July this year, the United States’ Independence Day, remember the sacrifices given by so many in our country so we could continue to live the many freedoms that other countries still do not enjoy. These sacrifices and losses run deep and wide, and sometimes to a devastating end. Take time to celebrate the lives of those who paid the ultimate price for our freedom and for those who will be away from their families this year and in the years to come. Ours included, if you feel so inclined.
We military spouses know what we are giving up when we marry, and we do it with great honor, but that doesn’t mean it’s not difficult or that we don’t live with fear when our loved ones are away.
Happy Fourth my friends!
Do you have a military family member? Are you a military member yourself or a spouse?