Life as a Military Spouse is unpredictable. You deal with deployments, unknowns and moving every couple of years.
You have adventures and stability within that instability.
You say goodbye at the pier only to have them come through your door again twelve hours later because something has changed.
They go to sea with one schedule on the books, return home three days later with yet another schedule. It is this constant shifting game some years and others you have the predictability you need to get through the toughest of times.
You may find yourself with a loved one in a war torn country, gone for up to a year at a time or both. Sometimes you get to live on a beautiful island where the service member has the option to golf as a part of his “work”.
Right now, I’m trying to roll with it folks, because we’re in the unpredictable, constantly changing, never-can-tell-what-the-hell-is-going-on portion of our military service and it’s no picnic.
But, we’re luckier than most.
My husband is not likely to have his boots on the ground in Afghanistan like some of my best friends from high school have done in recent years and so many countless others that we know from our years living this life of service. In fact, one of those friends just returned yesterday, after missing the better part of his daughter’s first year. Seeing that image of him thrusting his little girl in the air with joy in both of their eyes truly brought our current situation into perspective.
So, when I start feeling sorry for our family, I remember him. When I start feeling sorry for myself, I remember his wife and the other wives who have had to be without their husbands worrying of their safety and well-being.
Sure, the military consumes my husband’s time, but I CHOSE to marry into the military and you know what, we’ve been blessed with a good life because of it. Our family sacrifice is a choice and I knew that when I made the choice to take that first date with this handsome guy over 12+ years ago…
Side Note: I cannot believe it’s been that long. It’s like I blinked my eyes and we have three kids and twelve years passed.
So most days, I just roll with it. And for the days when I can’t, I try to remember those who have sacrificed far more than we have with their service. I have friends who have given birth without their husband’s by their side, I know young kids who have lost limbs to IED’s, and spouses who have deployed so many times, they have spent more time apart during their marriage than together – and they all do it with so much grace, courage and unending strength that I am empowered to do the same.
So, I keep it in perspective.
Do you have a loved one serving in the military? Deployed?
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