This year, I’m keeping things simple when it comes to working on bringing joy into our everyday lives. No lofty goals, bucket lists and the like. Just a simple blueprint by getting back to some basics.
Laughter is fuel to the soul.
I love to laugh and I have a goal to spend more time with those people who truly bring laughter and positivity on the regular. Fortunately, we have a lovely group of friends who we spend time with that do this simply by hanging out with our kids running around on a Friday night. We all throw some food together, let the kids run around crazy while we visit and laugh about the chaos that is our life right now.
Observe my children in their element.
The act of being too busy to enjoy the little things is something I have, admittedly, become too good at. As I type, my girls are harmonizing with one another. It’s this random harmonizing, pretending, and acts of kindness for no other reason but that it’s what their heart and soul demands of them that I want to tune into more often and truly, enjoy those moments.
Choose the Positive over the Negative.
I have most certainly gotten into a bit of a negative nelly cycle in the last year. My posts on Joy have been an effort to ‘pep talk’ myself and, you all to focusing on joy, positivity but, ultimately, if I’m being honest, I haven’t been truly succeeding. There have been a series of stressors – deployment through the earlier part of last year, a move into a new home, quitting a job that I was so excited about (but ultimately was a negative experience), my Grandmother’s rapid decline into the harsh abyss that is dementia, a daughter with some social struggles that have left her and I both at a loss for how to navigate such issues – it’s been a bit overwhelming at times.
But, I have been through many, many hard times, hard years and struggles. I always came from a place of ‘I can do this’. I always came from a place of ‘it could be worse’ (because it could). And, I always found the inner strength to find the good and the positive. I don’t know why it’s been so hard to do that for me now, but I have a goal to find that old part of me again and dig a bit deeper to find the positive in all things.
The truth is, my family is blessed. We are fortunate and we have come through many struggles in the last five years. It’s time to be thankful and focused on the positive chapters ahead.
Refocus on my Marriage
My husband, my lovely, frustrating, amazing, husband has been side-lined too often in the past year. But, he is my biggest advocate, champion and friend in this world. We are also both so, so stubborn. So, when times get stressful, we can be pretty hard on one another. So, we need to get back to the simplicity of little moments when we focus on each other so when those moments of frustration happen, we have the patience to get through it.
So, more hugs, more locking of eyes when talking, more stolen kisses when the kids are demanding our time. And, when the weather isn’t freezing cold, more coffees on the deck. These are the things that feed our marriage. Elaborate dates, gifts and gestures don’t really do it for us, although I don’t mind them (just in case you’re reading this honey!) – but I know, in my heart, what feeds us are those dedicated small moments. The simplicity of coffee together in the morning before work, or an embrace in the kitchen while dinner is cooking makes the ebbs and flows smoother.
Foster my Friendships
It doesn’t take much to keep friendships alive but, I’m sure you can agree that we all get lost in the busy of life as mothers, wives, and professionals that our friendships often suffer. My friendships have always been a big part of my life. I can be loyal to a fault, some would argue. In recent years, life has taken over and I haven’t been as consistent and I was reminded last week when I found out that a dear friend is entering hospice care (we’re the same age) that regardless of how busy and stressful life is, relationships, friendships, and love in life matters. Not the next blog post I write (although I want to be more consistent with that too, it’s just lower tier goal), or the amount of money I make so I can take my kids on a Disney cruise in the next couple of years. Love, friendship, and relationships matter.
I spent 2014 a part of the Happy Mama Crew, attempting to remind myself and all of you to focus on being happy, joyful and admittedly, I wasn’t always successful myself. But, what I learned was that it’s the simplicity in the smallest of moments that can bring real, authentic joy. So, that’s my goal – small moments that are focused on the most important people in my life – my husband, my children, family and friends. Grand gestures will not be within the context of this year, it will be more about being present, content and aware of finding joy in simplicity and love within my relationships with each person.
I resolve to be joyful, but I’m keeping it simple because I know I’m facing some additional struggle and loss in 2015. With some of the things mentioned above, it’s a given, so keeping the focus on simple, small moments will make real, authentic joy attainable.
What are some of your resolutions in 2015?
If you’re a blogger and have a blog post sharing your resolutions, head over to Amanda’s place. She’s hosting our Happy Mama linky this month where we are all sharing our posts this month. Next month, all the Happy Mamas will be focused on spreading LOVE either through their words, with a recipe, gift guide, a craft and more inspired by the month of love – it promises to be a great month of posts with our crew. You’ll be able to link up your LOVEY-DOVEY inspired posts at Krystyn’s place – Really, Are You Serious? and find all of ours over there.
And, check out the rest of the Happy Mama Crew – we have a few new faces jumping in on 2015.